"I've Been Turned Into A Squatter After Wife's Sisters Moved Into Our House": Expert Advises

• A Kenyan man has complained about his wife's relatives overstaying at their home whenever they visit
• The 42-year-old said he was fed up with his wife's relatives, revealing he was not getting enough conjugal rights, asking what he could do
• Relationship and marriage counsellor Jane Murimi advised the man to stand up for himself and take a break

Anonymous wrote:

"I (42) have been turned into a squatter in my own house. Two of my wife's sisters have moved into our house. They are rude, controlling and don't contribute to bills despite being employed. My wife's cousins also keep popping in and out. My househelp now sleeps on the couch because one of my sister-in-laws took over her bedroom. The other sister-in-law has taken over our daughter's room now we share a bed with my wife and daughter. This really messes up my conjugal rights. I can't watch TV or come home late because our househelp will be sleeping in the suitting room with a night dress on. I'm so pissed off because my wife doesn't like it when my relatives come around. How do I get rid of these people?"

Jane Murimi Mugo is a qualified relationship and marriage expert with over 12 years of experience in counselling. She is a published author of Caged and is working on another mental health book.

How to deal with relatives who overstay their welcome

The relationship coach advised the man to move out of the house for some days to test his wife and see if she could ask the sisters to move out.

"He is the man here. Enough is enough. The wife should shape up or ship out. Let the guy now be firm. It's obvious he loves his family but pissed off by wife's character," she said.

Murimi opined that the wife is selfish for allowing her sisters to control her home and not chip in to pay bills besides not welcoming her husband's family.

"The wife is an opportunist. Given the fact that she is mad at her hubby when his relatives visit, but very much ok with her own. That tells a lot. She's mean, insensitive, inconsiderate and no love at all. I would advise the guy to walk out for a while and leave them to enjoy life. But before that, let him face his wife and share with her whatever is of concern. She will be mad at him but he stands his ground. If she insists on the status quo...let the guy give himself a break and test his wife's seriousness for their marriage," she added.

Disclaimer: Advice given in this article is general and is not intended to influence readers' decisions about solving marital problems. They should always seek professional advice that considers their circumstances before making a marriage decision.

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The woman is afraid things might turn ugly if her husband of five years finds out about the affair with his father.

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Proofreading by Asher Omondi, current affairs journalist and copy editor at TUKO.co.ke.

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